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What if all I want is a small, slow, simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in between? Where calm lives. What if I am mediocre and choose to be at peace with that?<\/p>\n


\nPhoto courtesy of Erin Loechner<\/strong><\/small><\/span><\/p>\n

The world is such a noisy place. Loud, haranguing voices lecturing me to hustle, to improve, build, strive, yearn, acquire, compete, and grasp for more. For bigger and better. Sacrifice sleep for productivity. Strive for excellence. Go big or go home. Have a huge impact in the world. Make your life count.<\/p>\n

But what if I just don\u2019t have it in me. What if all the striving for excellence leaves me sad, worn out, depleted? Drained of joy. Am I simply not enough?<\/p>\n

What if I never really amount to anything when I grow up\u2014beyond mom and sister and wife? But these people in my primary circle of impact know they are loved and I would choose them again, given the choice. Can this be enough?<\/p>\n

What if I never build an orphanage in Africa but send bags of groceries to people here and there and support a couple of kids through sponsorship? What if I just offer the small gifts I have to the world and let that be enough?<\/p>\n

What if I don\u2019t want to write a cookbook or build a six figure business or speak before thousands? But I write because I have something to say and I invest in a small community of women I care about and encourage them to love and care for themselves well. Because bigger isn\u2019t always better<\/a> and the individual matters. She is enough.<\/p>\n

What if I just accept this mediocre body of mine that is neither big nor small? Just in between. And I embrace that I have no desire to work for rock hard abs or 18% body fat. And I make peace with it and decide that when I lie on my deathbed I will never regret having just been me. Take me or leave me.<\/p>\n

What if I am a mediocre home manager who rarely dusts and mostly maintains order and makes real food but sometimes buys pizza and who is horrified at moments by the utter mess in some areas of her home? Who loves to menu plan and budget but then breaks her own rules and pushes back against rigidity. Who doesn\u2019t care about decorating and fancy things. Whose home is humble but safe.<\/p>\n

What if I am not cut out for the frantic pace of this society and cannot even begin to keep up? And see so many others with what appears to be boundless energy and stamina but know that I need tons of solitude and calm, an abundance of rest, and swaths of unscheduled time in order to be healthy. Body, spirit, soul healthy. Am I enough?<\/p>\n

What if I am too religious for some and not spiritual enough for others? Non-evangelistic. Not bold enough. Yet willing to share in quiet ways, in genuine relationship, my deeply rooted faith. And my doubts and insecurities.<\/p>\n

This will have to be enough.<\/p>\n

And if I have been married 21 years and love my husband more today than yesterday but have never had a fairy tale romance and break the \u201cexperts\u201d marriage rules<\/a> about doing a ton of activities together and having a bunch in common. And we don\u2019t. And we like time apart and time together. Is our marriage good enough?<\/p>\n

What if I am a mom who delights in her kids but needs time for herself and sometimes just wants to be first and doesn\u2019t like to play but who hugs and affirms and supports her kids in their passions? A mediocre mom who can never live up to her own expectations of good enough, let alone yours.<\/p>\n

What if I embrace my limitations and stop railing against them? Make peace with who I am and what I need and honor your right to do the same. Accept that all I want is a small, slow, simple life<\/a>. A mediocre life. A beautiful, quiet, gentle life.<\/p>\n

I think it is enough.<\/p>\n

*Note<\/strong> \u2014 This article was originally published at A Life in Progress<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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