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As my 40th birthday approached, I sensed that change was coming my way.<\/p>\n

Somehow I understood that this year would be a tipping point. A critical crossroad at which I would stop being pulled to and fro by shifting mood or circumstance and make a conscious decision about who and how I wanted to be in the world.<\/p>\n

Change did come.<\/p>\n

I launched my first blog called Embracing Imperfection – an initial, tentative effort at articulating my deep longing to disentangle myself from comparison, perfectionism, and fear. I returned to school, ended up struggling to walk with a cane as I awaited a hip replacement and then passed through a long and painful recovery, and my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer.<\/p>\n

My 40th birthday ushered in the most challenging season of my life. And I am grateful.<\/p>\n

The strange thing is, even as I stumbled through this valley that I would never have chosen for myself, I knew I was being changed. Through the pain and sorrow, the agonizing stretching of muscle and soul, I was beginning the process of releasing everything that no longer served.<\/p>\n

All the striving and comparison, the self-doubt and concern about what others thought of me and if they loved me, was stripped away layer by layer until I arrived, exhausted yet relieved, at a place of surrender.<\/p>\n

Broken and beautiful.<\/p>\n

It was like I fully awoke, for the first time.<\/p>\n

And what I finally understood was that I was already enough. That I could love myself, with all my mess and struggle, precisely as I was.<\/p>\n

And I saw that my simple, imperfect life was more than enough<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As I draw near to my 47th birthday and look back over the past 7 years, I realize there are four interconnected, life-giving lessons I’ve learned which allow me to walk with intention and joy today.<\/p>\n

Joy and pain can coexist<\/h2>\n

I picked up joy in that valley and have never been the same. While I first got a taste of this when I lost my mom, it was in this season that I embraced the life-altering truth that joy and pain can coexist. Beauty and suffering are old friends. Happiness and struggle co-mingle in a beautiful, imperfect, real life.<\/p>\n

Life simply isn’t black or white. All or nothing. And if I wait until there is no sorrow, no doubt or uncertainty, no suffering or frustration or brokenness in this big world, then I will miss my life. I will exist instead of truly living.<\/p>\n

I can decide that I am already enough. This simple, imperfect life of mine is more than enough.<\/p>\n

When I pull my brain back from tomorrow and my heart from yesterday, I live with joy today<\/strong><\/p>\n

Today is an incredible gift. The crumbs on the counters that speak of a family well-fed, the bills to pay and kids to drive and laundry to fold. This matters.<\/p>\n

I grieve the people I’ve helped bury and joyfully make plans for my future but most of all I choose to show up fully present and awake today. A nicer home, more money, another vacation or a fairy tale romance will not make me happier than I already am.<\/p>\n

If this is as good as my life ever gets I will die content. This is far more than enough.<\/p>\n

If I can’t be happy today it is unlikely I will be happy tomorrow<\/h2>\n

I have stopped deferring happiness – life is too short, and I am worth too much, to allow imperfection or uncertainty to keep me from living fully today.<\/p>\n

The truth is, I don’t need circumstances to be perfect in order to choose to be happy<\/a>. I can take personal responsibility for my thoughts and habits and show up curious and fully engaged to my simple, ordinary life.<\/p>\n

Instead of tipping into negativity, I choose to consciously scan for beauty. Instead of living in fear that the good things in life won’t last, I soak up every drop of beauty and joy, love and opportunity for growth, that this simple day offers. This day is more than enough.<\/p>\n

There is wisdom in each season<\/h2>\n

Death and birth, winter and springtime, times of tightening the belt and those of abundance, seasons of being hidden before stepping out into the light – there is a primordial wisdom in each season.<\/p>\n

I’ve learned not to panic in the winter seasons; this is where I put down roots that anchor me later on. And I have learned, in the seasons of light, to silence the voice of my inner critic<\/a> so I can step through fear, into purposeful action, to joyfully do the work to which I feel called.<\/p>\n

One season isn’t better than the other. They are both necessary and work together to build a beautiful life that is so much more than enough.<\/p>\n

Today, like each day of these past 7 years, I choose how I will show up. I choose if I will see my strength and not just my struggle. I choose if I will see past mess and imperfection to the grace and gifts of this ordinary day. I choose if I will grow and heal and laugh like I mean it or allow frustration and discomfort and a sense of lack to hold me back from truly living.<\/p>\n

I alone get to decide that this simple, imperfect life of mine is more than enough.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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